Build Trust - 7 Ways to Build Trust in Your Relationship

Here is an article that I published at Ezine Articles a few short months ago that quickly climbed to the top of my "article hit list". With the number of readers who have clicked on and read it, I can assure you that it gives value in helping your marriage relationship. Please give it a read and see if you can Fix Marriage and get the magic back in your relationship.

Here it is:

I'm going to go ahead and list 7 concrete ways to build trust in a relationship, and they may NOT be the things you think of first. For example, do you think that one of the ways is to always "change things up", to have fresh ideas, or to "spice" things up? No! Being predictable, or consistent, is way more important than always surprising someone with something different. Relationships need to have a certain amount of predictability, of consistency, to build that level of trust in a relationship.

If you want your relationship to grow stronger by improving the level of trust, the following seven methods will definitely help you do so.

First, as mentioned above, you need to be consistent, even predictable, in your dealings with each other. Many people think that "spicing" things up and constantly bringing new things to the relationship will keep the romance alive; and while that is not a bad thing occasionally; to build the trust levels in your relationship, you need to stay predictable! Surprising your partner with a small gift or having a surprise date night will be nice, but consistency is the key to making your relationship work. Build the trust by being consistent on a day to day basis.

Next, be aware of your body language! Is it matching what comes out of your mouth? Are you telling your partner that you agree with him/her but have your arms crossed over your chest? If your body language isn't matching what you are saying, the mixed message will not install trust in your relationship and will not help you to mend what needs mending. Be honest with what you are saying and it will match the signals your body gives out. This is another step in the building trust process.

Third - One of the most destructive things that can happen in a relationship is to keep secrets from each other. Secrets destroy all trust in a committed relationship and doesn't give you anywhere to turn, but away from each other. Be honest and open with each other. Communication really is key to a terrific relationship and "secrets" don't belong anywhere in it.

Fourth, are you giving your partner the trust that you are asking back from them? Trust is a two way street. Look to yourself to ensure that what you are asking for from your partner is also being given to them by you. After all, if you don't trust them, why should they trust you?

Fifth, stick up for yourself. Sometimes you may need to say "no" to what is asked of you. To always say "yes" no matter what is not a good thing. If you never say "no", it erodes the respect that your partner has for you. You essentially become a doormat. Don't let this happen to you. Your partner will respect you more and it is another building block where you can build trust in your relationship.

Sixth - In keeping with the communication theme from above; you both need to realize that you are not mind readers! Let your partner know what your needs are. Don't them them guess, just tell them straight out. Be honest. As long as your needs are not selfish, it won't hurt the relationship and the stress of trying to guess, but still feeling like you are not getting it right, will harm the trust in that relationship. Just be open about what your needs are and ask what their needs are in return. At that point, you then know exactly what some of the things that you need to work on are, with no guess work required.

Seventh, and finally, don't be afraid to grow and change. If you keep building the trust between the two of you, if you keep communicating, and if you always place their interests before your own (if you BOTH do this, you will always win! Always!) your relationship will strengthen. It will grow so strong that any problems that crop up will be dealt with easily by the two of you. Consult with each other and really listen to what each other is saying. Work on the solution and get an agreement of what you will both do to confront the adversity you are facing.

I'm not saying that these seven steps will be easy or not cause any pain at all. At least some of them will bring discomfort, and sometimes real pain, to the relationship. By utilizing communication and addressing concerns head on TOGETHER and building those trust levels, what was once difficult will become much easier to deal with.

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